“He grabbed my belly fat and then he shook it.” The look on my therapist’s face validated my internal experience. At the age of about ten, my grandfather grabbed the flabby flesh hanging off my belly and jostled it back… A Note on Perfectionism and Belly Fat
My plan sophomore year of high school was to attend community college for god-knows-what, then transfer to god-knows-where. After Ellen died I found it tricky to feel motivated because all of a sudden I understood that actually we’re all dying… We’re all dying
The last time David started a new job on the day after Easter was the day my oncologist said, “it’s back.” That was 14 years ago, April 24, 2011. My firstborn was five weeks old. I remember watching all the… The last time he started a new job on the day after Easter was the day I got re-diagnosed…
Hi. This morning I wanted to run away as fast as I could from my life. From the four needy, whole-hearted humans I’m in charge of raising. From the husband who triggers everything. From the white tufts of dog hair… A Note On White-Knuckling
It’s an exciting time to be alive. I feel so grateful for the research over the last two decades that supports what healers already know: Your mindset matters. Your biology believes you. You may have seen a recent Huberman guest,… The Problem with Positive Thinking
Here’s what happens when you fall in love with someone you aren’t married to: You read a lot of books and go to a lot of therapy and have endless hours of discussion with your saintly husband about endless topics… Here’s What Happens When You Fall In Love With Someone You Aren’t Married To Part 1
The week before my younger sister died her body turned a very specific shade of green-gray. My fourteen-year-old daughter is the same age as Ellen was and I just have no idea how anyone watches a child die. We watched… Gray: On Good, Hard, and Getting Your Soul Blended by God.
You know that scene in Dune? The hand-in-the-box scene? The main character feels a call to something bigger, something truer. He must be vetted, he must suffer to prove the sturdiness of his soul, to solidify his calling. If he… Jasmine Will Make It Smell Sexy
Hello! If you are an OG clairemargit subscriber then it’s been a while since you’ve heard from me. If you were transferred here from Substack, same. Either way, it’s been quieter on this western front. I’m back on WordPress, writing,… Return to WordPress
One of my best friends texted me this morning lamenting the lack of hormones that feeds her PMS symptoms. It’s a thread we circle back to monthly because we’re both big, enthusiastic bitches who feel the dip in more dramatic… I Don’t Wanna